Dating after 10 year relationship
“Both partners relax, and stop being on their best behavior.” But this isn’t all good.
“Old family habits assert themselves, and they begin to disagree about things they were tolerant of before,” she says.
“For instance, we know that around the three-to-four-month mark, we know that the representative [image] typically fades away.” By then, you really start seeing your partner.
“Between the five-to-six-month mark, people are typically really trying to decipher their feelings, and by the seventh-to-ninth-month mark, they are trying to determine if they really want to be with you.”Coming up on a year, stuff gets real.
“A relationship begins with projection, which means you don't see who the other person is, just who you want them to be,” she says.
“The next stage is disillusionment, where you see who they really are and not your fantasy, which is why people break up in the three-to-nine-month window.”And then, of course, there’s the final stage: “There's a power struggle or conflict,” she says.
“It's also why they say love is blind,” she says, “because you really can't see the other person for who they really are; you just think they are wonderful.”But this doesn’t last.), on Mondays, during summer holidays, two weeks before Christmas, and on Christmas itself.“There is a pressure, a feelings of cleansing and starting anew, and a want to be free during these times which increases the rates of breakups,” Martinez says.But don’t dread every Monday: This only happens when it needs to. Or just something that has to happen, if the relationship isn't destined for forever?Sociologist Michael Rosenfeld tracked more than 3,000 people since 2009 to find out what happens to relationships over time.