Online dating and married men
I’d only encountered this level of male entitlement in other people’s personal essays. When I told him I didn’t think this would be possible, he grew angry and sullen, sent a stream of raging texts. When I come to the States for a holiday, all I want is to have fun and relax and enjoy a threesome with two beautiful, married women. Matches were harder to come by, and when Pete reiterated to the women he matched with that he was in fact married, they did not think it was fabulous or awesome.When he countered that experimenting with dating apps had been his wife’s idea, not his, they doubted and derided him.On a recent evening, I was having drinks with a male friend — a single and actively-looking-for-a-long-term-relationship friend — when he asked me why there seemed to be so many married women on Tinder.According to him, they appeared on the app, boldly describing themselves as “married” or “in an open marriage.” Were they actively looking for sex, he wondered? He didn’t know many married women, and he thought of me as an emissary of the tribe, which is a reasonable way to think of me.For the first time in 16 years, men who were not my husband looked at me (or at least at pictures of me), and told me they liked what they saw.As a single woman, I might have rolled my eyes at their ogling. It reminded me of how tipsy I got from the first beer I drank after nine months of pregnancy abstention.” He looked at me the same way he’d looked at me when I suggested we move in together, or marry, or breed, an expression equal parts terror and love. We picked each other’s profile pictures, bounced off the other’s possible bios.We both agreed that the most appealing descriptors seemed to be the shortest.
It all felt the way romance was supposed to feel —playful and exciting and unserious. We had a pleasant exchange of texts, a couple of warm conversations with decent rapport.
I’ve been married for almost 15 years; I am ignorant of the swipe-romance, the point-and-click marriage.
My husband and I met at a party on a quiet street in a college town.
She was really nice and after I explained the situation, we made plans to go out for a drink together. awhile ago, I spot my high school friend's husband on a dating app.
Went home with her afterwards and waited for dude to come home. Even though we weren't closed anymore, we were still fb friends.